On 23 Mar, 06:54, Paul Hyett wrote:
> On Sat, 22 Mar 2008 at 01:49:27, Turk182 wrote
> in uk.legal :
>
> >So here we have a survey that concludes that school disruption is
> >caused by parents who can't say no to their children. =A0This flimsy bit
> >of research was done through interviewing (wait for it) .... 60 pupils
> >and children !!!!! - on behalf of the NUT
>
> Surprise, surprise - yet another pointless survey that tells you
> something that perfectly bloody obvious to anyone with an ounce of
> common sense!
>
>
>
> >As a person involved with the most disruptive children in schools,
> >allow me to give you some facts.
>
> >1) The most disruptive children are the ones who are often smacked
>
> Cause & effect reversal - the get smacked *because* they are disruptive!
> --
> Paul Hyett, Cheltenham
Adults who don't have the skills, patience or skills of conversation
and use it's supreme ability to enlighten and inform, may tend to hit
out at their children instead. In doing so they teach three things 1)
I don't like what you did. 2) I don't have the skills to explain 3)
Hitting people is OK.
Parents who are inclined to hit are more likely to evoke hitting
behaviour, as the element of violence is an intrinsic component of
their responses to the world - it's part of their oxygen - they
wouldn't be able to understand a world where it doesn't happen. "It
didn't do me any harm" is often the chant of an angry man - but to
repudiate that part of his upbringing is to turn on his parents whom
he love
In contrast, a family who have attained a good working model of social
interaction would regard hitting as being anti-social and counter-
productive. To hit would be regarded as the worst outcome rather than
being a reasonable response to a problem.
Turk182
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